Not an Imposter, Pero Ingeniosa Si

¿Como Explico lo que Siento?

  • The “perfectionist” tends to have very high expectations of oneself and very hard on their performance. If they do not meet their expectations or make a mistake, they question their capabilities.
  • The “superwoman/man” convince themselves they are imposters and do everything they can to prove otherwise. This causes them to push themselves harder in order to measure up to those around them.
  • The “natural genius” expects themselves to know EVERYTHING. Knowing everything provides validation and knowing it on the first try is a MUST. Failing to comply t their expectations, like the perfectionist, sounds their alarm.
  • “Soloist” are those who refuse to ask for help, to prove they’re not phonies. They are those who wish to do everything independently to prove their worth.
  • “Experts” are the ones who NEED to know every single detail to feel enough. They tend to silence themselves in order to be exposed as frauds, constantly doubting what they do know.

Identity Consumed by an Imposter

  • Break the silence and speak up about our feelings.
  • Give ourselves a reward when we accomplish goals.
  • Take control of the rule book by setting PERSONAL scripts to follow, not societal standards.
  • Reflect on what WE HAVE done. Little things go a long way, so we must understand that the little victories are just as important.
  • Imagine ourselves in the positions of OUR success. We spend so much time belittling ourselves for what we NEED to do, but not appreciating what we ARE doing.

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